I just arrived on that website and I am glad it exists. Because for numerous trans attracted men, it seems to be difficult to be "accepted" by others. And I saw you were kinda questionning yourself about others's reactions... For my part, I red that a lot of trans-attracted men were rejected and suffering because of narrow minded people's behaviour but... I'm still questionning myself about "Why could I be suffering from bastard's behaviour ?"
I realized recently (half a year) that I was trans attracted. But it was so a solace to me to understand myself about my tastes and sexuality that I don't even feel able to consider other's point of view over me for the moment. In the facts, I spent so much a lot of time to understand the inner gears of my own personality and tastes that, now that I realized it, I just feel comfortable with the idea. And I don't think this is a special strength I have. I already used to wonder "Why people pretend to be so concerned by other's private life ? Whatever if it is gay life or lesbian's one, and so on, we shouldn't even have to fight to be accepted, this is simply what we are. Does an hetero man or girl has to fight to be accepted ? For me, to pretend to be equal to them involves to think as they already do. If they don't fight to feel accepted, why should I do ?
Of course, I know that we are not in a wonderland and that people are trully able to emit easy and rude judgements about one's tastes and private life, but, from my own experience of the thing, I started "my fight" by sincerely and deeply understanding and accepting myself. I had that rare luck, apparently... And what I can say about it, to answer your question, this is that it seems to have a powerful effect over my friends and family.
My family is especially narrow-minded. But as I don't tell them about me as if I feel like a kinda curiosity, I think this help them a lot to just move on. If us, trans attracted people, but also all non hetero "conforming" people, feel able to live our private life without taking so much cares about stranger's opinion about us, I think the changes will just operate naturally in people's mind. Of course, I am not talking about some particular forms of violence and I will never say that I agree with that, world's mind has to change. But I am questionning about "What is the best way to help people to change without sacrifying anyone's life ? And what I felt about it is that, the main fight we have to lead is inside us first. But what I saw, at the contrary, is that each time someone raised the fist to assert his/her private life in someone other's mind, there has always been an idiot to start a war.
Maybe I am just lucky, and you would be right to think that I dont master the topic, but don't forget I was just talking of my own experience and point of view. And whatever if it was before or after I realized that I was trans-oriented, for me, fighting to be "accepted" by others has ever been a kinda nonsense. I think this is mostly an inner fight we have to make to sincerely accept oneself. And I think that managing to do this will lead to a slow and more calm transition.
But I won't be offended if someone thinks that I just say nonsense. I just talked about a feeling and my humble point of view. And some recent experiences. There is no "truth" in it.
Whatever it is, I wish you to be strong to already perfectly and deeply accept and understand yourself. I'm pretty sure you'll feel better after doing this.