Wow, that is one kind of a question to answare! This question has faced answares.
Generally_I_think_transattracted men's view on marriage are average. For believers marriage are unquestionable.
I have had an ambivalent view on religion since I was a kid. I am christened but not confirmed. For many years I didn't know what to think about god. I guess I was no believer. In the recent years I have opened up for god's existence but necessarily no biblical god even tho I respect any view on god and religion.
Personally I tend to look at christian ceremonies as nice traditions more than a promise and confirmation to god. I could live unmarried with a girl friend. My situation is that marriage is the key for her visa and I am willing to do what it takes in order to settle with her. It's no proforma marriage. I need my girl friend here with me like any other intercontinental couples. Basically my marriage will be based on love whatsoever.
I can apply for a church wedding but likely we will have a civil wedding due to traditional christian practice which do not recognize same sex marriage. If the local gospel accept a church wedding, I will concider.
Most important is to get married but I admit a church wedding have greater status. For my girl friend as a catholic believer standing white bride must be "every woman's dream". On the other hand we may be unable to conduct the ceremony. My brother would follow her up the aisle. I know he would. I can't see how we could bring her family to our wedding.
What if my girl friend were a next door girl? It'd be great to marry her. I admit. I think marriage is a great ceremony and cymbol in order to confirm my love.
I think this is what you are asking.