Since my girlfriend is a pure top and I am a pure bottom, our relationship always makes me think think about the psychology of dominance and submission.
Outside of the bedroom, I could probably be described as assertive but respectful. I have strong opinions but I am not judgmental. My girlfriend is independent and does not like to be controlled or told what to do. However she does seek my guidance and sometimes she actually does want me to tell her what to do. I always refuse but instead try to guide her in coming to her own decisions.
In the bedroom, I always let her decide what to do, how to do it and when to do it. For me, her sexual pleasure and satisfaction is always the main priority in our lovemaking. For example, while I was visiting her, she had 31 orgasms and I had 3 (yes I am OCD). Actually it would have been fine if I had had none at all because they mattered so little to me.
There is a saying that the desire of the man is for the woman but the desire of the woman is for the desire of the man. I can definitely relate to the woman in that equation. If my girlfriend has a satisfying orgasm, then I know that she desired me and I was a good partner for her in helping her have her orgasm.
When we are together virtually, I admire the strength and power of her sexual desire and I delight in seeing the results of our efforts together afterwards. It makes me think that I am worthy of her and an excellent lover for such a beautiful woman. When her desire is satisfied then my desire for her desire is also satisfied and we are both happy.